Lingam Massage more than a happy ending

On today's episode, we are talking all about lingam Massage. I'm gonna give you, , all the juicy deeds. What is it? Why should I do it? How did you start doing it? What are the benefits?  Also some funny stories I've had along the way.

I introduce myself every single week as a Lingam masseuse on the podcast. But what's funny is in real life, most of the time when people ask what I do, I say wieners and buds or dicks and buds, and then I go into what that means, what that looks like, . All the explanation comes later, but I normally lead with dicks and butts.

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Welcome to the Dick den podcast. It is about to get weird. My friends. I'm your host, Rachel Z. lingam massuse Sex educator. Funny gal sitting in a room full of Dick's talking dicks, but, and all things sex. it is Wiener Wednesday. On today's episode, we are talking all about lingam Massage. I'm gonna give you, all the juicy deeds. What is it? Why should I do it? How did you start doing it? What are the benefits? Also some funny stories I've had along the way. I introduce myself every single week as a Lingam masseuse on the podcast. But what's funny is in real life, most of the time when people ask what I do, I say wieners and buds or dicks and buds, and then I go into what that means, what that looks like, All the explanation comes later, but I normally lead with dicks and butts. Before my breast cancer diagnosis, I was a sex worker and post double mastectomy and breast reconstruction. I was really, really unprepared with how my body was going to look, how I was going to feel about it, how I was going to feel. In it, what that process looks like, and my self-confidence and body image sexual presence just in the fucking tank. Terrible, but I still really wanted to stay in the sex work industry. I just felt so uncomfortable in my body. I accidentally stumbled on to aling a massage or becoming an expert in Dicks and Butts. Through a variety of trial and error. I tried out dominatrix stuff, not for me. You can listen to that episode. Trials and Errors of Being a Dominatrix listen and laugh my friends. but I have this genius idea that I could start maybe focusing on things that you did with your hands. I was really struck by the idea of edging. I didn't know much about edging. I didn't know much about tantric practice. If you would've asked me years ago if I was into tantra, I would've been like, mm, no, too. Woo. But here I was GE stepping outside of my comfort zone when I felt crazy uncomfortable in my own skin and I learned something new. Honestly, it changed my. Life totally rebuilt my sexual self-confidence because every time I finish a Lingam session, I'm like, you is a bad bitch. Now I realize that I rambled a bit and I didn't even tell you what lingam massage was. I just went on a tangent about dicks and buts. Sometimes I. Think I'm curious about how many times I can say that a lot of times is the answer. lingam massage is essentially a tantric massage practice for the male parts. Whether you're doing this on yourself or you're having it done to you. Male parts, we're talking penis. Testicles. Perineum, and my favorite, the prostate, the male G spot. And it's all these things combined into this sacred sex practice that honors the person who has the penis. It's really all about slowing down, connecting with your sexual energy, pleasure mapping, edging, learning to ride the ebbs and flow of arousal without bust in a nut the whole purpose of lingam massage is to take the pressure off of an orgasm, to be really present in your body, to move around your sexual energy, to experience full body pleasure, in ways that you didn't even know was possible So often ling a massage gets confused as soon as you say it's a massage for male parts. It gets confused with a rub tug. And yes, they are both handling male genitalia, you're in a massage parlor. You get this nice massage over the course of this massage. You've gotten a boner, you flip over your masseuse notices, said boner, and says, Hey, for an extra 40 or 60 bucks, I can take care of that for you. And their primary purpose is to just jerk you off as quick as possible and get you to bust a nut. And the reason why lingam is so much different and so much more than that is because it encompasses all these other. Practices. The intention behind it is not to have an orgasm. lingam massage is a type of sexological body work, and what that means in a professional setting is that it is one way touch, meaning I touch you, but you don't touch me. lingam massage is also typically done on a massage table or a bed or a floor mat, but in my practice I built a milking table, a milking table is essentially a horizontal glory hole, if you will. It is a massage table that has been modified to have a hole where the dick goes. The launching point of my lingam career. Is it gives really good access to both the penis and the prostate because you can do with both hands. I feel like a monkey when I'm doing this, but for real though, this is how I got my strong dick arm. As I mentioned, lingam massage was something I totally stumbled into. I didn't even know it was a thing. I didn't know the principles of it. I literally started exploring things that you could do with your hands. When I first started doing hand stuff, I was tying men to a chair in my dick den and edging them. What I learned really quickly is that. A lesson I learned really quickly is in that position, it was really hard to do both massaging the penis and also massaging the prostate at the same time. But men were like scooting their asses up, up, up, up, up, trying, like holes are greedy, way more men than you think are interested in butthole stuff. Also, another episode. Holes are greedy. So I built my milking table and I started When I had men on my milking table, what I quickly discovered was that men have a really hard time, and this just isn't man specific, but people have a hard time being really present in the moment with no reciprocation required. Just solely receiving these men on my table were in a precarious position, face down, ass up Wiener threw a hole on my table. So their range of motion was really, really limited. When they did try and touch me, they looked like they were like little T-Rex arms. These men would. Be so desperate to participate or be involved initially that they would like finger fuck my ear sometimes because it was the legitimately the only hole that they could reach. No, sir. That's when I really started to notice that on the table, it took away all those visual distractions and really allowed them. The opportunity to fully surrender and fully to receive. That's when the fucking magic of lingam massage happens. What I saw in their body language all these subtle things that their arousal ebbing, and flowing this really magical thing happened, and this is why I fell in love with lingam massage, is that I get to see people in this really raw and vulnerable and primal state where their arousal has hit. Places that it probably has never ever been to and all with my fucking hands. All with your hands, you can make men see God and develop. This sense of sexual mastery. What are the benefits of lingam massage for a man, the benefits are connection, intimacy, pleasure. It is a massage for the male parts, so we can't even pretend like pleasure isn't part of it, but also it can increase stamina because. So if you're a minute man or you would like to be able to last longer in bed, it's also really great for people who suffer from erectile dysfunction because the whole process is, this, again, comes back to the idea of edging this ebb and flow of arousal. Ride these waves of multi-orgasmic pleasure. Not only that, the prostate is the male G-spot, so that has a ton of benefits as far as full body orgasm becoming multi-orgasmic. It's good for your health, you're curious about it. It feels good. So that is a huge benefit of lingam massage. And for ladies, this is particularly, I had clients say, please teach women this, please teach women this, please teach women this. I also was in a place where I learned a new skill and I could show men like. Types of pleasure that they didn't even know existed in their body and open up like this whole new world of sexual self-confidence for them and, and inquisitive nature I was at a time in my life where, I was feeling so shitty and so uncomfortable in my body, and my self-confidence was terrible. My sexual self, I was struggling. I wondered, will I ever be attractive anymore? Will men never ever find me sexy? Like my body is crazy and I learned how to do this fucking thing with my hands, and every single time I had a man my table, I'm like, you are a bad, bad. Bitch, and that is the type of empowerment that is exactly why I share these things for the ladies. It's being able to show up confidently to handle the wiener, to start to develop a sense of sexual self-confidence, to spice it up in the bedroom to blow his mind and to always live in his spank bank. I can't even tell you how many men's. Spank banks I live in and I fucking love it. I love to elicit erections and I love to know that like he jerks off to my what has happened in our encounter? I love that shit. I want women to feel that sense of empowerment that comes along with sexual self-confidence. It follows you in every single area of your life when you can show up really confident and exude this erotic energy without even trying. So now that I've told you all that, you're like, bitch, I thought you wasn't gonna gate anymore. And look, gatekeeping is a toxic trait of mine. I am also a reseller. And let me tell you, I will not, I will not tell you where I get my stuff. I will not divulge the. Location of my honey hole. If you ask me, I'll say at the honey hole, or I'll make something up. I am ready to share a lamb massage and all the dicks and weenie secrets. How do you do a lingam massage? The important thing is to set the intention. Tell your partner, Hey, I wanna do this thing that is just for you. You, your only obligation is to sit back, relax, and receive pleasure. Grab yourself some lube. My favorite lube for lingam massage is grape seed oil. It stays slick for a long time and doesn't dry out the way that water-based lube does. That's my favorite. Grab a pump bottle, put it in there. Do the damn thing. And start out slow, and with this genuine curiosity when you touch him. What happens when I touch here and notice the responses in his body, the way his breathing changes, the way his butt clenches the way the moans are just slowly start to explore caress and touch and fondle his private parts. Don't forget about the shaft, the tip, the perineum, the booty hole. Just because you don't want a finger in the butt doesn't mean a booty hole rub. Still doesn't feel nice, and I've said this before. I will say it all the time. I will continue to say it Holes. Are greedy. Okay? And they are very communicative when you are rubbing a butthole and the receiver does not. Like it or is not into it or does not feel comfortable, they will clench up and try and break your finger with their butt cheeks. Okay? Think of it as like rubbing a cat's belly. If a cat's into belly rubs, they will let you know. They will let you rub their belly. They will roll up. If they are not, and you touch their belly, they are gonna claw you. That is my BO analysis, but if you adjust, rub the bow and put light pressure on it, you would be surprised how quickly you will realize that holes are gritty and it will give you clear indications that it is an invitation in. Slow, sensual, stroking. Slow sensual caresses. No more than five of each move because the whole purpose here is to build the arousal. Spend as much time as you would like doing this tantric massage practice. The choice is yours. Whether you let your partner ejaculate or you don't. Either way, this is a highly erotic practice. That can definitely spice things up in the bedroom. Give it a try. And watch. How you can take your man to places he hasn't never been before. Thank you so much. For joining me today. If you loved it, drop over view, subscribe so that you never miss an episode. Join me next week as we talk about. Dicks and drinks at burning man.